Passion killers - 10 turn-offs worth avoiding

As it can take ages to get that new object of your desire in the mood, it seems a shame to blow all the hard work with a schoolboy error. So, we commissioned some detailed research (okay, we spoke to the women we know) and drew up a list of 10 things you must never, ever do when sex with a new partner is on the agenda.

1. Don't talk dirty. It'll give the whole situation the intimacy of telephone sex.

2. Or ask her to talk dirty. Ditto.

3. Don't spend ages in the bathroom. She'll either get paranoid about her own cleanliness or fall asleep.

4. Don't wear themed boxer shorts. They're just stupid, okay?

5. Don't say or do anything you've seen in a film. Film sex is cliché ridden, which you can only forgive if the scene is beautifully shot and the actors are gorgeous.

6. Don't mention sex with someone else. Ever. Even if you mean to compare your current lover favorably, the instant you mention another woman, her ghost snuggles in between you both, and she'll be too pre-occupied to enjoy herself.

7. Don't put obvious music on the stereo. Ambience is good, and soft music is nice, but really obvious stuff prefaced by "this always gets me in the mood" will make her feel that the girl is interchangeable as long as the CD is right.

8. Don't use props. Handing her a pair of fishnets and stilettos with a husky "would you mind slipping these on?' is a real passion killer, even if they fit.

9. Don't watch TV.

10. Don't shout. Particularly another girl's name, "goal" or "Mummy".

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Condom Courtesy

If you're in bed with a woman, you've probably made a decent first impression. But according to an experiment done at Arizona State University, you can improve your high standing by doing some condom play-by-play. Women watched video-taped scenarios of a man and a woman starting to have sex, then they rated the man's maturity in each one.

They considered the man to be more mature when he told his partner he was going to put on a condom, rather than let the ripping foil do the talking. A word of introduction reassures her that you're confident enough to be cool about contraception - and that the tearing noise wasn't just you breaking wind.

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How much is too much ?

Why are professional bodybuilders not covered with women?

We'd never tell you to stop building muscle. If you listened, we'd have to find real jobs. But there are limits, especially when it comes to attracting women. In a recent study, women ranked male body types and gave top honors to omen with medium to moderate muscle mass.

"If women are given a choice, they like a modified Charles Atlas," says Dr Michael Cunningham, professor of psychology. Women like big shoulders and a thin waist.

The reasons :-

• Scary muscles are scary "The potential for being broken like a toothpick is a turn-off," says Cunningham.

• You're looking to trade up Women don't want a guy who is better-looking than they are. It means you spend more time primping than they do, and that you may start looking for a new and improved partner. "If you see yourself as a Lamborghini, you may start looking for a Ferrari to date," says Cunningham. And that means dumping the reliable Toyota.

• Huge muscles means you're in love With yourself. Excessive muscle-building indicates a high level of narcissism that detracts from other goals in life. Which leads to the main reason that women avoid muscle junkies.

• Your muscles mean so much more to you than she does Women hate any guy who spends too much time on a hobby, whether its rugby, fishing or calligraphy. It means there's less time for her, the career, the cookery classes. Cunningham told me that weight training may be more threatening because of what it tells women about a man's level of self-absorption, but I wasn't listening because I was too busy posing in front of the mirror.

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